Sheri Winston of Kingston moans and groans all day at work. Not that she doesn’t love her job — quite the opposite — she is just putting her heart into her work. Winston is a sex educator. She emphasizes that she is neither a surrogate nor a sex therapist. Winston’s task is to shed light on the society’s seemingly concealed and well-guarded secrets of the female sexual anatomy in order to boost the sexual experience of women and couples.
Sex is a very sensitive subject, particularly in America. Some people are deeply offended by discussion of sex. If you feel uncomfortable reading an article about sex even though there is no prurient content whatsoever in it, perhaps you should stop reading this and go on to another article.
Wikipedia.org describes it like this: “Orgasm (from Greek οργασμός or orgasmos, from organ to mature, swell, also sexual climax) is, in biological terms, the sudden discharge of accumulated tension during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure. Experienced by males and females, orgasms are controlled by the involuntary or autonomic nervous system. They are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations are expressed. The period after orgasm (known as a refractory period) is often a relaxing experience, attributed to the release of the neurohormones oxytocin and prolactin.”
In her book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal; Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure, Winston helps readers navigate “the largely unknown network of structures responsible for arousal and orgasm that even most medical professionals don’t know about.” Winston insists that even health care providers don’t want to talk about what everyone already seems to intuit — orgasm has benefits which surpass its momentary neuro-chemical explosion into our body’s heavens.
Winston’s impressive litany of capital letters following her name gives her serious cred on the topic. She is a former midwife, nurse practitioner, licensed massage therapist, childbirth educator and book author. She recently appeared on The Learning Channel’s self-explanatory “Strange Sex” show, and on CBS’s “The Doctors” talk show on medical and health-related topics to show the world how to go for the “Big O.” Winston tours the country giving “hands-off, clothes-on” sexual education classes, workshops and conferences for adult singles and couples. Her website’s video gallery and online classes feature topics including how to let go of sexual shame, G-spot wisdom, how to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm for men, female ejaculation, women’s anatomy of arousal, tantric lovemaking and more.
“It’s a brave thing for people to do.” said Winston of her students, who are typically seeking to expand their horizons. Winston refers to the current American climate as “a sex-negative culture,” and a male-centric one at that. “Owning a penis is pretty straightforward, and it’s easy to operate,” she said. She offers a full-day seminar on how to pleasure a woman. An immediate problem is that it takes about 45 minutes for a woman to get deeply, thoroughly and totally aroused, while the average time a couple spends en flagrante is a diminutive eight to 12 minutes. “You see why we have so many unsatisfied women?” she asks.